Today, 9/9, is my wedding anniversary. We were married on 9/9/09 (easy enough to remember) so I thought I’d write a list of 9 lessons I’ve learned about love.
Unique: Everyone's love is different. What works for one person may not work at all for someone else. And that's perfectly fine. Find your love.
Malleable: It's common for lovers to evolve during the course of their relationship. Love's shape is flexible, able to be expand, bend, and adjust.
Compromise: The Rolling Stones were right: you can't always get what you want. Give and take is crucial in love. Too much of either leaves things unbalanced.
Vulnerable: A person's willingness to accept the emotional risk that comes with being open, and willing to love (and be loved).
Supportive: Having someone's back (and them having yours) is a hallmark of true love. Encouragement and emotional help are immensely important.
Fragile: Love can bend, but it can also break. No matter how strong the love, it can be lost in an instant. Cherish it. Protect it. Respect it.
Truth: Be honest. Be open. Don't be sneaky, secretive, suspicious. If you have the other 8 elements in this list, truth is infinitely easier.
Messy: Even the truest love can be a giant mess sometimes. From those storms can come an even stronger and ever-lasting bond.
Personal: Much like it's unique, it's your own. If it works for all parties involved, you need not justify it. It's yours. You own it, and nobody else does.
There you have it! These aren't the ONLY 9 love lessons, of course. But they are 9 of the many lessons I've learned :)